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Lupus Has Many Voices

As a teen with lupus, I felt very alone, like I was the only person my age with the disease. But teen lupus isn’t actually that uncommon. According to the Lupus Foundation of America:

Lupus develops most often between ages 15 and 44. However, between 10 and 20 percent of cases develop during childhood and these cases can evolve more rapidly into serious health complications.

Yesterday I added my “Voice” to the LFA’s online album of lupus stories. I shared my Butterfly Lessons philosophy and a brief snipped of what my life as a teen with lupus was like. Please check it out at http://bit.ly/JIOAcy and add your own story.

Take care and share your voice,

Katina Rae Stapleton

I’m Raising Lupus Awareness on the Stroke Diva Fabulous Show (Sun. May 6, 2012, 7:30 PM EDT)

This Sunday, I am partnering with my Sorority sister & LifeStyle Blogger Kamaria T. Richmond to bring you twice the fabulousness and some great information about living with lupus.

Kamaria hosts The Stroke Diva Fabulous Show, a monthly radio show on Talkshoe Radio. Kamaria was inspired to create The Stroke Diva Fabulous Show after her 2004 stroke. The show is a celebration of life and topics include spirituality, healthy living, lifestyle reinvention, the arts, music, current issues, popular culture, fashion, beauty, travel, gourmet food, wine, home decor, and so much more.

This Month’s topic on the Stroke Diva Fabulous Show is Lupus in honor of Lupus Awareness Month and features me (Katina Rae Stapleton) the brains and beauty behind the Butterfly Lessons: Living a Fabulous Life with Lupus Blog.

WhatLupus Awareness w/ Katina Rae Stapleton on the Stroke Diva Fabulous Show!

Where: Online at Talk Shoe Radio

When: Sunday, May 6, 2012 at 7:30 PM Eastern Daylight Time

We would love if you joined us as I dish with Kamaria about the ups and downs of living with lupus and the nature of fabulousness:

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? . . . as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” Marianne Williamson

Until Sunday,

Katina Rae Stapleton

Want more Kamaria? She shares her lifestyle insights and experiences on her Cinchcast audio blog: http://www.cinchcast.com/kamaria. Follow Kamaria on Twitter: http://twitter.com/kamaria and connect with her on Facebook.


30 Posts in 30 Days: Looking Back on the Health Activist Writer’s Month Challenge

The final prompt for the Health Activist Writer’s Month Challenge asks us to recap our experiences blogging about our health focus for the past 30 days. I had an absolute blast. Check out the photo-essay below on my experiences blogging about lupus for #HAWMC 2012.

I finished! I wrote 30 posts in 30 days, though one was a tad late.

#HAWMC increased readership of Butterfly Lessons: Living a Fabulous Life with Lupus. In February and March, the blog received about 600 visits each month, but in April, Butterflylessons.com received app. 1,500 visits.

I was going to skip writing the #HAWMC post on the 19th, but changed my mind around 11:30 pm. By the time I posted the blog, it was already the 20th. That is why the 19th looks so sad on this calendar of my posts.

Most readers of ButterflyLessons.com are located in the United States.

According to Klout, Butterfly Lessons is a Socializer! During #HAWMC, I enjoyed "meeting" other health activists on Twitter and sharing my story with @Butterflylesson & @KRSProf followers.

I received great feedback from readers.

I received blogger love from other members of the #HAWMC family. This passage is from Rhiann, the blogger behind "My Brain Lesion and Me" - http://brainlesionandme.wordpress.com/. Reading her great #HAWMC posts reminded me that even though invisible illnesses differ, we all face many similar challenges.

The 2012 #HAWMC challenge may be over, but my lupus awareness journey continues. During May 2012, I will celebrate Lupus Awareness Month by continuing to blog and tweet about how to live a fabulous life with lupus.

Take care and stay fabulous,

Katina Rae Stapleton

Congratulations, You Have Lupus (#HAWMC 28)

Today’s topic for the Health Writer’s Activist Month Challenge is to write about a “first” in your life: “Write a post about the first time you did something. What is it? What was it like? What did you learn from it?”

I decided to write about my “first” diagnosis of lupus. As a young teen in middle school, I felt “kind-of-bad” two and three days of the week. I would get tired, zone out while doing chores, and frequently had headaches, stomach cramps, muscle pain and the strangest “acne” across my cheeks.

For about two years I went back and forth to different doctors. My pediatrician had me tested for everything from lead poisoning to lyme disease. It wasn’t until I had a seizure in high school (which my mom writes about in A Mother’s Journey), that I saw a rheumatologist who finally diagnosed me with lupus.

con·grat·u·la·tions: an expression of joy in the success or good fortune of another.

That diagnosis was the best news I had in a long time. While I was terrified by having an autoimmune disease, I was relieved that my symptoms had a name. There wasn’t some phantom bad mojo that was stalking me; instead, I had a real, honest-to-goodness medical problem that now could be treated.

That diagnosis was a blessing. I believe to this day that my early diagnosis (and treatment) is what helped me have such a full life over the last twenty plus years.

Katina Rae Stapleton

PS. If you are concerned that you or someone you know may have lupus, check out Diagnosing Lupus, a resource provided by the Lupus Foundation of America. Then contact a medical professional for more information and assistance.

Living a Fabulous Life with Lupus (#HAWMC 26)

“No matter what the disease has thrown my way, I have never lost sight of my dream to have a fabulous life.” Katina Rae Stapleton

This week, I am coming into the homestretch of the Health Activists Writer’s Month Challenge. I am excited that I was able to blog every day (with the exception of a post that went live after midnight). Today’s HAWMC topic is close to my heart:

“Today you are challenged with the task of writing a tagline. This can be for your blog, your health condition or for yourself.”

Since I already have a tagline for the Butterfly Lessons blog, this assignment was super easy . . .

Living a Fabulous Life with Lupus

I picked “fabulousness” as the theme of my blog, because I hate low expectations. I refuse to believe that a lupus diagnosis must lead to a sad, dreary, lonely, painful life. I have a full life and know many fellow lupus butterflies who are overcoming obstacles to pursue their hopes and dreams. Many of them I have “met” online:

There is Christine Miserandino, who came up the idea of using spoons to describe living with lupus. Her website But You Don’t Look Sick is an oasis for spoonies who live with chronic illnesses and invisible disabilities. You can find her on Twitter as @bydls.

I am also inspired by these super fabulous “tweeps” and fellow lupus bloggers:

Before you leave Butterfly Lessons today, check out the Blogroll for links to other lupus bloggers and organizations who are trying to make life better for those of us living with lupus (one day at a time).

Take care & be fabulous,

Katina Rae Stapleton

P.S. To learn more about how the blog Butterfly Lessons: Living a Fabulous Life with Lupus came about, read “About Katina Rae Stapleton.”

Dinner for Five (#HAWMC 19)

Success is not measured by what you accomplish, but by the opposition you have encountered, and the courage with which you have maintained the struggle against overwhelming odds.
Orison Swett Marden

Thursday’s HAWMC prompt was:

Who are 5 people you’d love to have dinner with (living or deceased) and why?

My five are:

  • Rosalind Joffe, author of Women, Work, and Autoimmune Disease for inspiring women with chronic illnesses to stay in the workforce.
  • Dolly Parton, my favorite country singer of all time and icon of fabulousness.
  • Orison Swett Marden, motivational writer and founder of Success magazine for his sage advice on perseverance in the face of struggle.
  • Laura Hillenbrand, chronic fatigue syndrome survivor who managed to write the international bestseller Seabiscuit despite being homebound.
  • Salt-N-Pepa (who I am counting as 1), my favorite female rappers for inspiring me to tell my story.

Who would you invite to dinner and why?

Katina Rae Stapleton

Dear 16-year old me (#HAWMC 10)

Today’s HAWMC prompt is:  Dear 16-year-old-me. Write a letter to yourself at age 16. What would you tell yourself? What would you make your younger self aware of?

I’ve had lupus since my early teens, so today’s prompt was very touching to me. I have so many things that I would tell myself, but I think this letter captures the most important.

Katina Rae Stapleton

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Dear Kat –

I just wanted you to know that everything will be all right. I know that it is very scary to have lupus. You hurt a lot, it’s hard to concentrate, and having “funny skin” as a teen really sucks. But I am here to tell you that you already have what you need to finish high school, go to college, and even graduate school if you want. You are a smart girl, and most important, you are a fighter. Reach inside and channel that inner strength that will allow to thrive against such a rotten deal of the cards. Your family and friends will be there to help you along the way. Cherish and appreciate them. Despite lupus, you are truly blessed.

Love,

Yourself (just older, wiser, and a bit more fabulous).

Top 5 Reasons I Write About Lupus (Day 4 of #HAWMC)

Today’s prompt was: “I write about my health because… Reflect on why you write about your health for 15-20 minutes without stopping.”

So without further ado, here are the Top 5 Reasons I Write About Lupus

#5     Even though House is always mentioning lupus, it is a disease that not enough people know about.

#4     I have always loved to write and find it very rewarding to write about a subject I know a lot about.

#3     Telling my story lets me give others a glimpse into what life is like for someone who has an invisible chronic illness.

#2     Writing about lupus allows me to be part of a wonderful community of health activists, lupus warriors, and spoonies online.

#1     Inspiring others brings me great joy. If one of my blog posts helps even one person with lupus live a more fabulous life, I will consider my words a success.

Take Care,

Katina Rae Stapleton

The healing power of dance: introducing guest blogger Loolwa Khazzoom of Dancing with Pain

“Be aware of wonder. Live a balanced life–learn some and think some and draw some and paint and sing and dance and play and work every day some.” Robert Fulghum

I have always loved to dance. It is truly one of my favorite things, second only to reading. But over the past few years, the pain and fatigue of lupus and fibromyalgia made shaking my tail feathers a daunting prospect most of the time. I satisfied my dance love by becoming an avid watcher of reality-tv dance shows from So You Think You Can Dance to Dancing with the Stars.

But right about the time I did my first vision board in 2010, I decided that watching dance was not enough. I no longer wanted to be a couch potato wrapped in a fuzzy blanket with my trusty heating pad by my side. I wanted to dance again. I started slowly, occasionally joining my best friend from college to dance to DJ Dredd at the Black Cat. Then this past year, I decided to try salsa, hanging out with another friend at salsa nights across the DC metro area. Sometimes the next day I was miserable, with sore muscles from dancing, while other times, I would wake up feeling perfectly fine. I decided that pain-or-not, I enjoyed dancing again.

This summer I am embracing dance. And for those of you who also yearn to dance despite lupus, I will provide updates on my dance-capades which include salsa lessons and a workshop on Moroccan Healing Dance.* You might even see pictures of my dancing the night away on my upcoming cruise vacation!

One of my dancespirations has been the blog Dancing with Pain written by Loolwa Khazzoom, chronic pain expert and the founder and CEO of Dancing with Pain, a health and wellness company that offers natural pain relief solutions.  Look out for the upcoming Butterfly Lessons guest blog post this Friday, May 27th contributed by Loolwa called “My thoughts on healing.”

May you find your passion and pursue it.

Take care,

Katina Rae Stapleton

* You may be thinking: “Wasn’t her last blog post about being in too much pain to willingly give up her seat on the commuter train?” Yes it was! That is the beauty of dance. I have found that when I dance, I don’t seem to feel the pain as acutely. Please don’t take this as medical advice though. If you plan to start dancing (or any kind of exercise, really), you should contact your doctor first for feedback. This is actually my third set of salsa classes. I completed the first set successfully, but had to quit the second because I was too sick to attend. I keep thinking that the third time is the charm. I won’t let salsa defeat me (LOL). You’re probably also thinking, “Moroccan Healing Dance? What in the world is that?” Well, every year the Belly Dancers of Color Association (BOCA) holds a Movement and Wellness Expo in the DC area on Memorial Day weekend. This is the first year I will be in town and I signed up for the healing dance class and a class on reflexology. I have not the slightest idea what I am in for, but believe that I am going to have a fabulous time. I will let you know how everything goes.

Living your life like it’s GOLDEN!

One of the great things about the internet is that it allows people with lupus to locate others who share the disease and learn from them. One of my favorite inspiration-blogs is written by Juliana Joie, a lupus and fibromyalgia survivor that embraces life to the fullest and is actively working to share her blessings with others.

This afternoon I checked my email and spotted Juliana’s monthly newsletter.  She included a powerful message about making the rest of 2010 fabulous:

“It is a wonderful time to seek clarity inside yourself and choose which goals are the juiciest, richest, and most powerful for you! Remember that saying “No” to some things can mean a great big “YES” to other things!

  • As you reflect on 2010, what accomplishments do you want to savor?
  • What will fulfill your heart’s deepest longing?
  • How will you create the life you love with these precious 12 weeks?”

It was a very timely message for me because I just decided that my end of the year goals are to relax and have a good time. I’ve even adopted a theme song. For the next three months I’m going to live my life like it’s Golden . . .

I’m taking my own freedom
Putting it in my song,
Singing loud and strong,
Grooving all day long,
I’m taking my freedom,
Putting it in my stroll,
I’ll be high-steppin’ y’all,
Letting the joy unfold.

Golden, by Jill Scott

The Butterfly Lesson: Life is too precious to waste. But it is a mistake to believe that you must always be doing something “serious” with your time. Sometimes inaction (rest, relaxation, a deep tissue massage!) is what you need.  Other times you should slip on a pair of your favorite shoes and dance, curl up with the television, read a good book, spend time with your friends and family, or anything else that brings you joy.